Why I’m NEVER Having Kids

Why I’m NEVER Having Kids #50: Too Many Parents Look Stressed Out

June 14, 2008 · 3 Comments

Above: A mother penquin with 3 young’uns.  And she looks stressed.

People who already have kids do a very BAD job of advertising the benefits of having them.

Oh sure, they’ll come to me and say stuff like, “They’re a joy to have in your life, and once you have them you’ll never understand how you lived without them.” Or: “They’re more precious than life itself!”

But I don’t go by what I HEAR, I go by what I see.  And, frankly, too many adults out there have let the hard work of parenting show on their person.  And it definitely isn’t something that looks too much fun.

In the course of a single day, I can walk around this city and see parents and children out together.  And what sights do I see?

  • The mother struggling to get her baby to quiet down
  • The father on the train with his two kids who are jumping around
  • Parents waiting in line somewhere while they’re kids run around like idiots
  • A teenager yelling at their Mom for no apparent reason
  • A parent breaking up a fight between two siblings
  • A kid crying because Daddy won’t buy them that toy/candy/moronic thing they want

The list goes on and on and on.  And in all these situations, the parents… well, they’re definitely NOT wearing joyful smiles on their faces.

No, the looks they have instead are:

  • Stress
  • Fatigue
  • Frowns
  • Droopy eyes
  • The “I just finished running a marathon and I’m about to collapse” Look
  • Wrinkles
  • Grey Hairs
  • Various bruises

Parents also seem to always have this “on the edge” demeanor about them.  Kids can go from being perfectly behaved to “bat-$#!+ crazy” in less than 0.5 seconds, and a parent always has to be ready to react to a child’s sudden meltdown.  Consequently, they never look like they’re completely at peace.  If you thought soldiers coming back from war had a hard time feeling at ease, try being the parent of 2 siblings who spent 5 days trying to kill each other, and see how “at ease” you feel about how they’ll treat each other on the sixth day!

With all these down-trodden looks I’m constantly seeing being worn by adults with children, is it any wonder that they can’t convince me with their words about how GREAT it is to have them?  Life is already stressful enough, and frankly, I’d rather not add to it!

-A.P. Taylor

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3 responses so far ↓

  • Nigel Johnson // June 14, 2008 at 11:04 am

    It´s stress in some way make no mistake. If parent plan a little before the child is born eg. get info on a childs upbringing eg. the book i bought was “what to expect when your expecting” Think about it. the child is a human being. What did your parents do for you? Do you think they did a good “job”?? Children are hugely influenced by their surroundings. Shout at your child all the time you will see that they will shout a you. Break things and throw things around, be messy or don´t wait for the green light when crossing the road. these are all the things they will copy from you.
    The things listed above eg..
    * The mother struggling to get her baby to quiet down

    Struggle?? They are just trying to communicate. A baby can´t have a chat with you. if it has been fed etc. and had some cuddles then cries when put down, then let it cry for a while. to many parents make the mistake of always trying to quieten the baby usually because they are in a shop or some where it is maybe embarassing.

    * The father on the train with his two kids who are jumping around
    Hmm. Parents haven´t shown from the beginning who has the say so they just don´t show the respect they would have. also kids are kids. teach them about safety from the beginning.

    * Parents waiting in line somewhere while they’re kids run around like idiots
    IDIOTS!! hmm more the parents have been either lazy in the childs upbringing or they are just oblivious to bringing up children. Same as above.

    * A teenager yelling at their Mom for no apparent reason
    As i mentioned above, you scream at the kids they will scream back at a later date. Children copy their parents.

    * A parent breaking up a fight between two siblings
    My word the list goes on and on and always the same answers…In nature what happens and comes naturely…..Competition!

    * A kid crying because Daddy won’t buy them that toy/candy/moronic thing they want.
    No means no! don´t give in and after a few times of trying they will stop. Make a day when they get candy for example Saturday and stick to it.

    I may look hard but all these things are really just little things.
    Ask yourself these questions.
    Why do you throw your rubbish in the bin?
    Someone showed you that it´s the right thing to do.
    Do you hold the door open for the person following you in to a building?
    If you do then you have been shown respect.

    The list goes on and on. treat your child with love and respect. always talk to your child even when they can´t speak yet or reply. bBe creative in your wording. The following example will make you laugh… The difference between those higher schools and poorer schools is the way they use more words to explain things. eg. if a child asks where is the red pen. there could be two answers
    1. in there living room.
    2. the red pen is in the green tin marked pens which is located in the third draw down from the left in the in the livingroom chest of draws.
    Be more creative and the childs vocabulary will become vast and valuable in later life.

  • stepher // June 14, 2008 at 7:28 pm

    LOVE the video and you’re totally right. I’ve seen too many people appear to age ten years by the time their child is three. They not only look older, they seem older. It’s gotta be the stress.

  • CF Sista // January 5, 2009 at 5:48 pm

    Um, I’m with A.P. on this one. Just don’t have kids at all, and you’d never have to deal with it! LOL

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