Why I’m NEVER Having Kids

Welcome to: Why I’m NEVER Having Kids!

March 1, 2008 · 1 Comment

Throughout the course of my life, I’ve had quite a few epiphanies about myself.

When I was 14, I was walking down some random street, and realized that, when arguing with someone, bringing up past incidents where the other person did something wrong to try and illustrate my point would not help my cause. It may win me the argument, but it could also ruin a friendship with someone by bringing up stuff from their past that had nothing to do with the argument in the first place.

When I was 18 or 19, I decided I wanted to become rich and NOT have a job. I realised that working for someone else at a 9-to-5 would NOT get me rich in a fast enough way, and that it would be best for me to figure out a way to get rich like rich people do.

And so it was: when I was 21, I was thinking about the qualities in a woman that I wanted. In the course of doing this, I had gotten into a conversation with someone where they were telling me how many kids they wanted. I had had this conversation in the past with my brother and other close friends, and my answer was usually that the maximum number I wanted was 2, preferably 2 girls…

…but I couldn’t figure out WHY I really wanted to have the kids in the first place.

So, in thinking about the qualities I wanted in a woman, it dawned on me: I didn’t really WANT to have kids.

I may have said it in the past, but I think the reasoning for it was because it’s what I believed I HAD to say. Up until that point, almost everybody I had ever talked to always said “I want to have x-amount of kids,” and it just seemed logical to me that I had to have them to. It wasn’t until I realised that I didn’t actually have to have them if I didn’t want to that I became extremely happy and more able to decide on what kind of mate I wanted.

It’s not that I had a hate for kids, mind you. I have cousins, nieces and nephews in my family that I’ve looked over and, in some cases, helped raise over the years.

No, the main reason I didn’t want kids was because I understood the job involved – the day in, day out, 24-7, constantly on watch and worry that’s involved in raising a kid to, at the very least, the age of 18 – and I just didn’t feel like doing it.

I didn’t feel the need to create something I’d have to then look over, wipe the poop of, watch go through crying stage after crying stage, explain stuff to that I already knew, act like I was interested in playing kiddie games, watch kiddie programs with, watch them perform at things that I don’t care about, sign up for sports I had no interest in watching or paying for, argue with during their puberty years about what freedoms they had and didn’t have, deal with any “surprises” that may suddenly occur – teenage pregnancy, drug use, etc. – and so many more things that, if I typed out, would be too long of a read for one blog!

And I decided that, if I didn’t want to deal with all that, it was my right to do so.


Whereas before, when people would ask me, “so, how many kids do you want to have” and I’d give them an answer with no harsh feedback… my new decision NOT to have kids was met with quite a few questions:

  • “How can you not want kids?”
  • “Kids are so wonderful, how can you miss out on that?”
  • “Don’t you want someone around to take care of you when you get older?” (That’s what they have nursing homes for, people!)

And, of course, the ever-so-popular question:

  • “How can you say you’re NEVER having kids? What’s so wrong with them?”

I tried explaining my reasons to people over and over and over and over again… but, at some point, I got tired of explaining. I could talk my head off all day about the reasons I don’t want kids, and some people will still say, “yeah… but that’s not a good enough reason!”

So, rather than constantly trying to explain myself, I just said “screw it” and started a website!

And thus, “Why I’m NEVER Having Kids” was born!

In this blog-entry journal site, I will give reasons and/or examples of why I don’t want to have kids. Basically, anytime I’m in public and see a kid or kids doing something I don’t feel like dealing with in the parent world, or if I think of one of a thousand different reasons as to why I find the job of kid-raising so unappealing, I will blog about it on this site.

So, if you ever have any questions about why I may not want to have kids, all you have to do is come here and read one of the many blogs I have up illustrating my point!

Please note: although I don’t use much cussing on this site, there are entries where I use terms to describe kids that aren’t plesant. I believe the words ”crumb-scratchers,” “lil’ bastards,” “pests,” and so on will be used quite often. If you’re offended by these terms being used to describe these little people, you may want to go to my OTHER website:


I don’t believe you’ll find any entries there, but oh well!

As for THIS website, come here before you ask me why I don’t want kids. There are hundreds of thousands of other people out there that have made the same decision I have, and I’m sure most of their reasons can be found in the blogs I’m posting on this site!  Feel free to use the stories and articles mentioned here to explain to your kids why you, too, are NEVER having kids!

And yes, I’m always looking for stories and/or examples from other people!  If you have anything extra to add to my blogpost here, you can write me at:


-A.P. Taylor

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